Everyone loves a happy face - Why !!??

Whenever in my life I cried, everyone said something nasty like

1. You think you are the only one who has all the worries in this world?

2. You behave like a foolish child.

3. Some people don't even pay you attention! They just continue their own chores.

4. Some people listen to your problems but they don't do anything.

5. Some people say that there is nothing in just sitting and crying but they don't tell us how to avoid it.

I can feel all the statements mentioned above.

No one understands how the crying person feels at that moment. These nasty people need to imagine themselves in the situation and I bet they will be shocked seeing the nasty part they play in the life of the sad and crying person.

Everyone should remember that no one cries without any reason. There is always a reason behind everything which happens in this entire universe and no one can deny it.

According to me, there are several reasons behind every cry in this world. I can list of course not all but most of them.

Possible Reasons Behind Every Cry:

1. The person is just going uncontrollably emotional for some big success or loss.

2. The person recently suffered the shock of someone's death.

3. The person feels like he/she is going to lose someone not physically but emotionally.

4. Have faced some harsh realities of life recently.

5. People around he/she are not being nice.

It's true that there are times when you can feel as high as a king of the world or as low as a beggar on the street or even worse than that. So in all the times of your life, remember that it will never last long. Everything in this world has an end, so do your worries and PLUS so do your happiness. Enjoy every moment of life to its fullest as you will definitely cherish the time you spent laughing and being happy and care-free :)

Needless to say, everyone needs to admit the fact that no one can fix the time of anyone's birth or death plus life has always been like this so you have to get along with all the things coming your way. Whether you do it happily or unhappily, it's totally up to you.

Now check the environment you are living in; if you feel like people are not being nice to you, deal with them ! Strongly deal with them !

But How To Deal With Negative People In Your Life ?

It has always been a very tricky question which can be resolved in the following three ways:

1. Ignore them totally.

2. Talk to them making an eye to eye contact.

3. Discuss their problem with others but don't tell the nasty person directly how they are making you feel.

Here the solution no. 1 is easy but not a permanent one as for how long you can avoid someone ? So it's not a practical solution to all your worries as it will not lead you to the end of your unhappiness.

If you go with the solution no. 2, it may not seem an easy one at a glance but it will definitely help you in the long run because in this solution you are actually talking about the real problem and directly with the exact person. This will not only take you to the resolution of the problem plus it also has an un denying advantage like if you show such confidence, the next time, nasty person will think twice before speaking to you ;)

The third solution, according to me is the worst one ! You discuss your problems with all the human beings on this earth but only the person who is causing all the trouble is not hearing them !? It's totally mindless not to discuss it with the actual relevant person.

So all in all, everyone should always try to be as much happy and positive as they can because people are not going to change how they behave as they are grown-up in that way and now you can't do anything about them.

But what you can do for others to make them feel better is:

Stop by and ask "Are You OK ?" :)

On an ending note, this saying should always be remembered:

"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have—life itself." ~ Walter Anderson

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Eid-ul-Fitr 2013 and relatives visiting Pakistan for the first time :D

I have been so busy for the last few days that I had no time to write all the stories and hardships of life I was going through. whenever Eid (the muslim festival) comes, it always bring with it all the cleaning of the house, buying new clothes, preparing sweet dishes and grooming ourselves to meet friends and family; but for some, it brings more than that. And I was that special one who was bestowed with all the work in this world on this particular Eid.

My maternal uncle from England planned to visit us this Eid with his british-born son named Adeel.

So, at first, I was like is he really coming to Pakistan !!! Because Adeel has never been to Pakistan and that's why I have never seen him before in my life. I was so excited that I remember the times when I used to spend sleepless nights due to over excitement. I have always been like this.

So, as soon as we got the news of him coming along with his son, we made a list of the things which needed to be done. Because now we had 2 reasons for doing all the big stuff - first is that it was Eid and the second is that we were having him with us and everybody likes to be their best when they meet someone for the first time in their lives.

So all in all, after all the big things like making a chandelier out of card board for my lounge,

A soap dish and tooth brush holder for toilet, fixing the mirror on a wall in lounge and exchanging our old iron cupboard for a new wrought iron dining table :D, we were all ready to welcome them in Karachi, Pakistan. Although they were going to stay in a hotel but I knew that they will be meeting us very frequently during the whole time of their stay, and yes I was right ! We spent almost all the days being a tour guide for Adeel.

This is the photo which I have from the moment when I saw Adeel for the first time in my life. His daddy i.e. my Mamoo has visited Pakistan several times before.

During the first days, we visited some places and family friends for the last aftari and dinner of this year, 2013 in which we were served khajoor, three types of pakora, samosa, cheese balls, melon slices, mango slices and of course the red refreshing rooh afza or jam-e-shireen. And for dinner, we had chicken masala boti, bhindi gosht of lamb, roti and naan and a big bowl of stupid salad :P We were ok but Adeel was not enjoying at all as he doesn't understand Urdu. So he preferred to go back to hotel when we planned for Dolmen Mall - Sea View (the new posh mall in the city of lights) which has a built-in Hyperstar in it, for the chaand raat festivities.

We came home around 4 that night and enjoyed a lot there.

Then on the Eid Day, Adeel wore shalwar kameez (traditional pakistani dress for men) and looked absolutely handsome and gorgeous.

Then we had lush food and some traditional pakistani mithai brought by Mamoo and sent by my wonderful brother all the way from Dubai, U.A.E.

The mamoo bought gourmet from Sheraton:

Brother sent Ambala,

a fruit basket,

 

  

and a lovely greeting card:

But me and Adeel, not being so traditional, ordered KFC (Kentucky Fried Chicken) Zinger, Hot shots, french fries and soft drinks because Adeel told me that KFC has no home delivery system in UK and I was like :-o

This is the photo of the yummy KFC delivery:

And later that evening after lotsss of gossips, we went to Arena Gaming Area

And played many games there and enjoyed ice cream too. Then for dinner at night, we preferred China Town Restaurant as Adeel desperately wanted to taste the Pakistani version of Chinese cuisine. Here is a photo:

So all in all, 1st day of Eid proved to be the best of their days with us.

On the second day of Eid, we went to hotel very early in the morning as Adeel woke early that day and was bored as his daddy i.e. My Big Mamoo was in gym. So me and Adeel had some absolute fun with the dhoti or better dhotis :P which he had brought with him and had nice aloo samosas and slices of delicious vanilla sponge cake.

Then we went to Hyperstar because Adeel wanted another shalwar kameez for him and some dresses from Sana Safinaz for his mum but he ended up buying a cool t-shirt from bonanza only.

There we had optp (one potato two potato) masala fries, plain fries and some diet 7up. Then later that evening, we got stuck in the traffic ... Very badly ... And remained stuck there for almost 5-6 hours.

While we were in the middle of the traffic jam, me and Adeel discussed about a lot of differences we have in between Pakistan and United Kingdom like the quality of living, cost of living, style of people talking in the traffic jam stress and many other things were discussed too.

It was then Adeel asked us that if he can stay at our home for a night or two and we said HELL YESSS ! :D

So after having enough of traffic jams for the whole evening, we finally reached hotel around 1 AM to pick up the necessary stuff for him and came back home. But till then after sitting for almost 5 continuous hours in the car, he was not feeling good and it turned into diarrhea when the clock struck 4 AM. So we had to call Mamoo because he had the tablets which they brought with themselves all the way from United Kingdom to be used in the case of any emergency and after this unsuccessful attempt of staying at our home he went back to hotel with his daddy.

On the 3rd day of Eid which was a calm moring as Adeel was not feeling very good but was ok to go out and have some fun on the Eid. We started late that evening as we were having my chacha’s family at dinner. So we quickly visited Ocean Mall and the Farid’s there.

Adeel bought some stuff which he has never seen in England – A genie lamp :D

And I bought some chocolates and crisps. Then we came back home at around 8 that evening and entertained our guests which had bought us some yummy mithai too – My personal favourite “Chum Chum.”

The food we enjoyed at the dinner were biryani,

Nihari,

 raita,

 different types of mithaiyan,

and some vanilla and chocolate sponge marble cake:

 

Meanwhile Adeel got very bored because he doesn’t understand Urdu and always had that difficulty during his stay. So he went to the bed room and slept there until they were gone.

When he woke up later that night at around 1 AM he said he wants to cook some Dahl and have it for his dinner. So when he started cooking he said he is not feeling like he can really cook and just after that he had a vomit … he was trembling with loss of energy or may be with the fear of being that ill. But we had to call Mamoo again and he came with the tablets and took Adeel back to hotel with him.

The next morning was a calm one as Adeel was in bed and we waited for him to get some good rest and start the day when he feels like it. But when we reached hotel later that evening, we noticed that he has no energy left to get up and explore Karachi. He was suffering from diarrhea, fever, muscle aches and vomits. Definitely it was the condition which many suffer when they visit any Asian country for the first time in their life. So I stayed in the hotel room with him for almost 6 hours and he slept quite calmly that evening which helped him get some energy refilled.

While I was sitting bored in the room I started reading the “Sweet or Savory” food menu of Sheraton’s room service. There in the book, I found a bit surprising common sense mistake that I wonder why no one has ever pointed it out !? Can you find out the mistake in this photo which I clicked ?

Anyways, I came back home at around 4 AM that night.

The next day was the last day with them. We went to hotel and Adeel was lying in his daddy’s bed for the whole day and his daddy was packing the entire luggage and was getting done with all the stuff. We gave Adeel some good-bye gifts like this one:

Which made him a bit cheered up, but poor boy stayed completely in bed for the last two days.

And then came the most difficult time … the time to say good-bye …

I have always hated good-byes in my life. I don’t know why but I always cry a lot and get very sick when someone leaves. So when I hugged Mamoo I felt very sad but when I hugged Adeel, I broke into tears, although I was thinking that I will not cry in front of Adeel but all of a sudden I couldn’t control and was crying remembering all the moments we spent together the massage, the long talks, quick phone calls, games everything.

This is the photo which I took when I was leaving Starwood Hotels' Sheraton Hotel  and Resort - Karachi for the last time.

Ahh … miss u so much Adeel … Hope to see you again x xx xxx

How to pick a LOYAL EMPLOYEE ?

Employees are the strength for any company. So where employees are concerned, loyalty has nothing to do with blind obedience, or unthinking devotion, or length of tenure. In this tough situation, selecting an employee who is actually loyal and faithful, is a job which can either be completed in a blink of an eye or it may take years finding such a gem for your company. By keeping in mind the factors mentioned below, you can easily tell whether a particular employee will prove to be a loyal one or not.

1. A loyal employee will treat you like a person.

Loyal employees share their opinions with you even when they know that you may not initially appreciate those opinions. Remarkably loyal employees flip the employer-employee relationship because they know you want to help them in attaining their goals and that you want to provide them what's best for them. So, in return, they prove to be very helpful for your business.

2. A loyal employee will tell you what you least want to hear.

Remarkably loyal employees know that you most need to hear what you least want to hear. Like, they will tell you that your ideas may not work, your point of view is off, you made a mistake but no worries; if they think about you that much, they will definitely help you grow exponentially.

3. A loyal employee will do what she has to do for the betterment.

An employee who consistently seeks to do the right thing is not just following a personal credo but she is also looking out for your long-term interests. You may see her as a disloyal employee today, but eventually you will realize that she has always displayed the highest form of loyalty.

4. A loyal employee has blind trust in you.

Loyal employees trust you because they have been loyal to you. After all, they have put your preferences and interests ahead of their own for a number of times. And now they expect that you will do the same for them.

5. They generate discussions others will not.

Mostly loyal employees hesitate to voice their opinions in a group setting and some even hesitate to voice their opinions in private too; but they have a great feel for the issues and concerns and they ask questions when others won’t.

In fact, everyone loves loyalty.

... and now it is your turn to do the same for them as they have always been by your side through the toughest times.

Always remember:

The employer generally gets the employees he deserves.

J. Paul Getty.